Silva Neves

Psychosexual & Relationship psychotherapist. Couples Therapy. Clinical Traumatologist. Sexual abuse.

Due to COVID-19, my Central London practice is closed. I offer appointments online. Get in touch by e-mail: [email protected]

Welcome to my website. I hope that it is going to be informative and helpful enough for you, to enable you to make your next step into therapy.

Psychotherapy provides a confidential, caring and non-judgemental setting that could help you understand and change difficult areas of your life.

I am a specialist in:
Psychosexual and relationship therapy, also known as couples counselling or sex therapy.
Post-affair recovery. Helping couples heal and rebuild their relationship after the disclosure or discovery of an affair.
Treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours and problematic use of pornography, and therapy for partners.
Sexual trauma therapy and EMDR: therapy for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, rape, relational traumas, neglect in childhood and treatment for PTSD.
LGBTQ- specific issues including chemsex, acceptance of sexuality, coming out, body image issues, the trauma of homophobia.
Bereavement and Grief: losing a loved one. Help for the dying. Disenfranchised grief.

Clinical supervision for psychotherapists, counsellors and other health professionals.

My model of psychotherapy is integrative and humanistic. It means that I will use different approaches from different therapeutic models to suit your needs best. I integrate psychotherapeutic modalities such as: Gestalt, Psychodynamic, CBT, ACT, Transactional Analysis combined with specific psycho-sexological knowledge and diverse relationships.

I am currently based online only

Sex & Relationship therapy: Couples Therapy & Individual Therapy.

Sex & Relationship. Couples Therapy. Individual Therapy.

Communication problems in a relationship, including frequent arguments, rows, blaming

Healing after the disclosure or the discovery of infidelity. I am a specialist in this area. For more information, Click Here

Differences in sexual desire within the relationship

Sexless relationship or loss of sexual desire

Lack of intimacy

Learning how to make connections with your partner

Sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, vaginismus, dyspareunia, difficulties with orgasms, etc.

Ending a relationship constructively, with empathy.

It is also known as Couples Counselling or Marriage Counselling. For more information on Couples Therapy, Click Here

Compulsive sexual behaviours & problematic use of pornography.

Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, most commonly known as 'sex addiction'

Frequent preoccupation by sexual thoughts.

Sexual behaviours having a negative impact on life.

Difficulties stopping the sexual behaviours despite negative consequences to life and relationship.

Feeling bad about the sexual behaviours.

Problematic use of pornography

Frequent preoccupation with sexual thoughts and pornography.

Using pornography to the extent of having negative impact on life.

Difficulties stopping the use of porn despite negative consequences to life and relationship.

Feeling bad about the use of porn.

Relationship problems as a result of problematic use of porn.

My treatment for compulsive sexual behaviours and problematic use of porn is holistic, non-shaming with an integrative approach of classic psychotherapeutic methods and modern psycho-sexological interventions.
For more information, Click Here

Trauma Therapy. EMDR. Sexual abuse.

Adult survivor of sexual abuse in childhood: healing for men and women. For more information, Click Here

Survivors of sexual violence and rape: healing for men and women. For more information, Click Here

Treatment of PTS and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

Adverse childhood experiences: healing for men and women from physical abuse, psychological abuse, verbal abuse, bullying, other neglects and other adverse childhood experiences. For more information, Click Here
For more information on traumas, Click Here

I also offer:
Early Intervention trauma therapy: a short treatment for recent trauma to avoid the development of PTSD. For more information, Click Here
Group Trauma Therapy: for survivors of recent or historic mass traumatic event (terrorist attack, natural disaster, sexual abuse in an institution). For more information Click Here

LGBTQ specific issues.

Therapy dedicated to LGBTQ specific issues(Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender)

Coming out. For more information, Click Here

Acceptance of sexuality, sexual desires and gender identity

Survivors of homophobic attacks. For more information, Click Here

Recreational drugs and sex, also called Chemsex. For more information on Chemsex, Click Here

HIV diagnosis, living with HIV and relationships with different HIV status. For more information, Click Here

Body image issues, including Muscle Dysmorphic Disorder (MDD). For more information, Click Here

Diversity of sexualities and relationships. Exploration of non-binary sexualities, including open relationships, swinging, polyamory. Exploration of kink sex in a non-pathologising approach. Sexuality diversity include the exploration of asexuality. For more information, Click Here

I employ a sexuality diversity affirmative approach. For more information on therapy for the LGBT community, Click Here

A Space For Men

A Space For Men is a unique 12-week programme to help men explore their masculinity in private and confidential one-to-one sessions.
The programme is not therapy. It is a masculinity coaching programme, although there are many therapeutic elements to it. The programme incorporates psycho-education, behavioural interventions and therapeutic interventions.
A Space for Men is a confidential, non-shaming, non-judgmental space where there is no risk of being criticised for exploring all aspects of masculinity. For more information Click Here

Your Sex & Relationship MOT

Many people call a couples therapist or a sex therapist when things are not going well. But what if you could avoid your relationship or your sex life becoming difficult? By keeping in touch with your sex and relationship MOT, you can avoid the crisis point and you may not need to see a therapist to repair things.
Don’t delay, book your Relationship and Sex MOT today for a thorough check-in.

Intensive Workshops and Coaching for couples

In the busy lives that we lead and with childcare issues, it is sometimes a struggle for couples to find the time to commit to weekly or fortnightly sessions.
This is with this in mind that I offer intensive workshops for couples. Positive change can occur with intensive workshops and it requires less commitment than attending weekly couples therapy.
The Intensive Coaching sessions are suitable for couples of all sexual orientations. For more information Click Here

The loss of a loved one. Bereavement and Grief. Help for the dying.

I offer therapeutic support for:

Making sense of the feelings of grief.

Processing Complex Grief.

Process the loss of someone whom you had an ambivalent relationship with.

Process the grief when your loved one died by suicide.

Process the grief of losing a child.

Process the grief of sudden death and traumatic death.

Help with the loss that nobody talks about when your intimate partner dies: the loss of your sexual self.

Disenfranchised grief.

Help for the dying, from terminal diagnosis, decline and death.
For more information, Click Here

Coronavirus Support

Psychological First Aid
The Coronavirus crisis is unprecedented. Our nation as well as the rest of the world is deeply affected by it.
I offer different types of online support for people who are struggling in the Coronavirus times:

Short-term support to help manage intense emotions in these difficult times.

Short-term couples therapy on managing the relationship in these difficult times.

Short-term therapy on managing unusual sexual behaviours that may arise in these difficult times.

Short-term therapy on managing maladaptive coping mechanism for better ones.

Therapy for grief and loss.

Therapy for recent trauma to help reduce the development of PTSD.
For more information, Click Here

Clinical Supervision

I provide ongoing clinical supervision for psychotherapists and counsellors working in the psychosexual and relationship therapy area and trauma therapy area.
I also offer one-off consultations to psychotherapists, counsellors and other health professionals who do not work in those specialist areas and who need a consultation to work with a particular client/ patient. For more information, Click Here

I provide therapy in English and in French

I currently offer consultations online only via Zoom.

You can read my blog Here

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BBC programme: Sex On The Couch

Tune in on BBC3 and weekly on BBC1 from Friday 26th April 2019
The aim of the programme is to de-mystify psychotherapy, particularly couples therapy and sex therapy. It is to normalise therapy and send a message to the public that it is ok to seek help for sex and relationship difficulties.