My treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours: a psycho-sexological, holistic and humanistic approach

My treatment for compulsive sexual behaviours is based on specialist psychosexual training and experience, clinical research on human sexuality, clinical evidence on brain functions and neuropathways, and human psychology. I do not offer an addiction treatment to ‘sex addiction’. It means that I do not encourage clients to attend SAA or SLAA meetings. I do not ask clients to be ‘sober from sexual behaviours’. I do not prescribe clients a ‘right’ way to be sexual.

Instead, I help you understand where your sexual behaviours come from, explore your sexual and relational landscape to gain a better understanding of your own individual sexual and relational system. Together, we make sense of your sexual urges and desires, your needs, your wanting, your longing. We also explore values and what your integrity is made of. With this deep understanding, you can then change many different areas of your life to support a fulfilling and vibrant sex life in stable relationships. My approach is humanistic and holistic: it is a non-shaming, respectful and sex-positive approach. In my clinical experience, this approach is very effective, and supports a sustainable long-term fulfilling lifestyle.

My treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours includes:

Psychosexological approach to help identifying the sexual behaviours that are wanted from those that are unwanted.
Learning new ways to self-soothe and cope with the negative feelings about life: stress, anxiety, feeling low, feeling bored, feeling unfulfilled, feeling bad.
A deep exploration of the sexual landscape.
A deep exploration of the emotional world and core beliefs.
An examination of cognitive processes.
An examination of sexual urges and desires.
Behavioural, psychological and emotional interventions to manage impulse control.
Re-instating balance in life: hobbies, positive connections with friends and loved ones, a deep sense of self, finding meaning, higher self-esteem.
Healing the possible trauma(s) underlying the roots of out-of-control sexual behaviours.
Treating the possible psychosexual dysfunctions underlying the roots of out-of-control sexual behaviours.
Healing the relationship that has been devastated by compulsive sexual behaviours, if appropriate.
Re-integrating vibrant, diverse and fulfilling sexuality with self and others.

My approach of the treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours is non-moralistic, non-judgmental, empathic and holistic.

The treatment for compulsive sexual behaviours is challenging. But I do not believe in ‘once an addict, always an addict’. Using specific classic humanistic, evidence-based psychological interventions and modern psychosexual interventions, people can truly leave their out-of-control sexual behaviours behind and change their lives positively and permanently.


The aim of the treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours is based on the six principles of sexual health (Pan America Health Organisation):

1- Consent

2- Non-exploitation

3- Protection from HIV, STI and unwanted pregnancy

4- Honesty

5- Shared values

6- Mutual pleasure