Silva Neves Specialist Psychotherapy in Central London W1 & EC1



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A Space For Men: A unique 12-week programme

The #MeToo movement has given a much needed voice for women who have been hurt by Toxic Masculinity for too long. Faced with this movement, many men have started to question their masculine behaviours but they are lacking a space where they can safely explore their masculinity, reflect on their behaviours, become more self-aware and learn new ways of being a man.

Men of all ethnicity and sexual orientation struggle with what masculinity mean to them.

I have created a unique 12-week programme to help men explore their masculinity. It is not a group programme, sessions are private and confidential, on a one-to-one basis.

The programme is not therapy. It is a masculinity coaching programme, although there are many therapeutic elements to it. The programme incorporates psycho-education, behavioural interventions and therapeutic interventions.

The programme is tailored to your particular circumstances and needs. It may include:
  • An in-depth exploration of childhood and early adult experiences.
  • An in-depth exploration of Core Beliefs developed over time.
  • The thorough exploration of your meaning of masculinity and making sense of your masculine behaviours.
  • Making sense of emotions and learning to regulate emotions.
  • Assessment of traumatic memories (if any) and trauma therapy interventions.
  • Coaching for Modern Masculinity.
  • Behavioural interventions for Modern Masculinity.
  • Gaining a deeper understanding of your masculinity and learning new ways of being a man.

    The Space for Men is a confidential, non-shaming, non-judgmental space where there is no risk of being criticised for exploring all aspects of masculinity.



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    The workshops

    I offer different workshops based on what you want your focus to be. All workshops are a 12-week programme, in a private and confidential space on a one-to-one basis.

  • A Space For Men: Men Do Cry.
    Suicide is the main cause of death of young men up to 45. Talking about your struggles can prevent suicidal ideas. Let's talk. Making sense of your emotions. Learning new ways to express and regulate your emotions.
  • A Space For Men: Masculinity & Eros.
    Making sense of your erotic mind and masculinity. Learning news ways to express your sexuality and be sexual with others.
  • The Rainbow Space.
    A Space for Men who self-identity as gay, bisexual or men who have sex with men (MSM). Together we can make sense of your sexuality, sexual behaviours and how to express your masculinity.
  • A Space For Men: Toxic Masculinity.
    Making sense of your problematic masculine behaviours. Learning new ways of being a man.



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    Men Do Cry

    75% of suicide recorded in Great Britain is male suicide. It is the most common cause of death for men aged between 20 and 49.
    Often men 'bottle things up' because they perceive that expressing sadness is a sign of weakness and definitely not manly. The fear of being 'weak' can be paralysing and produce some rigid thoughts about masculinity.

    This workshop aims to demystify those rigid ideas about masculinity: you can be a man and cry. You can be a man and be sad. You can be a man and ask for help. It's ok to talk.

    Over the course of 12 weeks, together, we will begin to make sense of your emotions and learning new ways to express and regulate them. We may also find some new strategies to look after yourself.

    This workshop is not therapy. It is a Masculinity Coaching Workshop with some therapeutic elements.



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    Masculinity & Eros

    Many men feel anxious about their sex life. Poor sex education combined with many myths on how men should be like in bed can create much anxiety.
    Some men believe that they shouldalways have an erection, and stay erect throughout the sex act.
    Some men feel their penis is not big enough.
    Some men think that penetration is the only way to be manly in bed.
    Some men think that their friends have a better sex life than them.
    Some men think that men shouldbe seducers, with high energy, and doing hard-impact sex acts.

    The truth is that men can express their masculinity and their sexuality is very many different ways.

    In this 12-week workshop aims to explore in depth your erotic mind and find out what is arousing for you and what are your peak turn-ons. Together, we will begin to make sense of it and identify what works for you sexually. We will re-frame how you can understand your masculinity and your sexuality in a way that is unique to you so that you can enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

    This workshop is not therapy. It is a Masculinity Coaching Workshop with some therapeutic elements as well as some sex education, if needed.





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    The Rainbow Space

    This is a space for men who self-identity as gay, bisexual or men who have sex with men (MSM).

    As we live in a hetero-normative world, it is easy for gay and bisexual men and MSM to lose their way and be confused with what masculinity mean to them. Some men think that being masculine means having a lot of muscles. Others think that being masculine is being the 'top' rather than 'bottom' with anal sex.

    In the sexualised gay culture, there is a big pressure to always look good, to have great bodies and to always be sexual.

    In our hetero-normative world, there isn't much models of diverse same-sex relationships. Men are often left confused how to what a relationship with another man may mean to them. Some men wonder whether they want to be monogamous or polyamorous, or something else in between.

    Some men struggle with their sexual orientation and suffer with homo-negativity. Sometimes homo-negativity is overt, but very often it is so covert that it is undetected.

    Some men struggle with their sex life and have sexual dysfunctions. Some others resort to drugs to help them with anxiety and homo-negativity.

    Some men feel lonely and struggle to connect meaningfully with other gay men on the gay scene.

    Some feel still feel hurt and traumatised for being rejected by their family because of their sexuality. Some others struggle to come out. And some still carry the scars of past bullying. Some men feel a lot of shame because of their sexuality.

    Some men question their hook-up apps use, pornography use or their sexual behaviours with others. They can feel distressed if they feel that their sex life has become out of control.

    This 12-week workshop aims to help you make sense of all the confusing heterosexual-normative messages, heal the wound of past bullying and heal the shame. Together, we will begin to explore thoroughly your masculinity and sexuality. We will explore your erotic mind and identify what works for you. We will address homo-negativity in order to facilitate a process of change so that you can have a flourishing life.

    This workshop is not therapy. It is a Masculinity Coaching Workshop with some therapeutic elements. It is a non-shaming, sex-positive workshop.



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    Toxic Masculinity

    Are you in frequent conflict with your partner or women?
    Are you often angry or outraged?
    Do you struggle to keep up with the masculinity standards of society?
    Do you feel less manly than other men?
    Do you think you need to be dominant in order to feel good as a man?
    Do you think your masculine behaviour is problematic?
    Have you been told that you’re a misogynist or homophobic?


    The #MeToo movement has given a much needed voice for women who have been hurt by Toxic Masculinity for too long. Faced with this movement, many men have started to question their masculine behaviours but they are lacking a space where they can safely explore their masculinity, reflect on their behaviours, become more self-aware and learn new ways of being a man.

    Although the emphasis in the media is on white heterosexual men, Toxic Masculinity is observed in all ethnicity.

    My unique 12-week programme aims to help men explore their masculinity in a safe and non-judgemental space.

    I provide a space for men to help them explore:
  • How they perceive their masculinity.
  • The messages they gathered from childhood and in their adult life that inform how they behave now.
  • How they can challenge some unhelpful thoughts and behaviours regarding their masculinity and their interactions with same-sex and opposite-sex people.
  • How to learn new, functional, rich, vibrant and various ways to be a man and respectful to women.
  • How to make sense of their thoughts, feelings and behaviours in relation to their gender and their sexuality.

    The Space for Men is a confidential, non-shaming, non-judgmental space where there is no risk of being criticised for exploring all aspects of masculinity.




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    How to get started

    First, we will arrange an initial consultation to discuss your struggles, circumstances and needs. We will assess whether A Space For Men is an appropriate space for you and what workshop is more suitable for you.

    After a mutual agreement to get started on a workshop, we will make weekly arrangements for appointments. The 12-week programme is designed for a weekly 50-minute session once a week. There may be gaps in between weeks to allow for holidays or other commitments, but it is important to keep the weeks as regular as possible for best outcomes.

    Sessions are to be paid individually on the day. Or you may pay the full amount at the start of the workshop.
    The initial consultation and the 12 sessions cost £120 each.

    If you would like more information on the workshops, do not hesitate to contact me:
    By e-mail: [email protected]
    By text or telephone on: 07958320565



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